“One sunny morning Buddha was walking through a village in ancient India. Suddenly, an angry and rude young man came to him and began to insult him.
- You have no right to teach others, he cried. You're as bad as everyone else. You're nothing but a pretended.
Buddha was not upset by these insults and listened patiently while the young shed their nerves. When finished, the Buddha looked deep into his eyes and asked with a gentle voice:
- Tell me if you want to give someone a gift, but that person chooses to refuse, to whom it belongs finally gift?
The young man was surprised by such a strange question and answered:
- It belongs to me, because I bought it.
Buddha smiled and said:
- That is correct. And exactly the same with your anger. If you've angered me and I do not feel insulted, then the anger falls back on you. Therefore, you are the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you did was to hurt yourself.”
This is a story that I'm sure many of you have read it on the internet. Beyond that you understand each of you and what leaves the text to understand, appreciate that it is my duty to make some comments.
In text Buddha is known and appreciated personalities who came to the village to talk to the villagers. Depends how it was perceived by the young but also how it was prepared, or maybe it was the young apprentice to a local learned that he felt disturbed by the presence of the Buddha - this is speculation. The story ends even if it does not say specifically points, points, so that each understands what he wants or what suits. For Buddha's disciples answer is great for friends and supporters boy - did not solve anything.
So it is really every thought and defends the truth or from his point of view is justified or not - but it is his desire that is willing to show. Righteousness and justice that are totally different. If you want a lesson ... it depends on each case and argument.
Usually people look very different wondered the same thing and do not get along. It matters not only what is the declarative stage in words but what lies behind the words and wishes. Often the two "belligerents" plans are so different that even if you can physically touch in discussions or replies it becomes a non sense without head, no tail .. a perpetuum illusory.
My ancestors told to be careful who I talk to and not look like fools they rested mind and I know one truth - theirs - and have time.
What really wants? Who uses them? Solve conflict problems and brings in a mutually recognized common good? Does that make sense? Does helpful?
There are valid questions in any area of the home, at work or socially.
We all have pain, unfulfillments, misunderstandings, gray days, headache, feeling of futility and even feeling like kindness and professionalism is a travesty that our work is in vain or as though we are right we are defied and humiliated by Joe Blow. It happens to everyone - and not always have the presence of mind to be calm - just no way. Theory says that we must as so calmly we overcome difficult moments. Theoretically yes, all we can, but in the face of an event breaks out ...... not happen to burst in and so there are a lot of diseases or injuries from acute myocardial infarction or stroke forms of cirrhosis and liver disease - gall or nerve manifestations depressive manifestations. Sometimes nervous outbursts and words to be so heavy that there was no turning back or reconciliation. And that is not resolved at the time of gather and break when bursts. "Small Earthquakes avoid it big".
It leaves its imprint in one form or another. It's magic in those moments that you can disconnect and have mastered you - but it does a very good self who teach and educate and educate himself. Teachers should be parents but ...... whole life learning, learn or not learn. And we all owe a death, even worthwhile (but no justice won so not worth a sacrifice so great).
Anger is an emotion that should be studied with great interest by all the people not only of specialists for each of us are often touched by the emotional reaction. I understand, by reading different books that treat this emotion, that it is not so easy to master yourself, do not give in to anger to rage and though many do not show feelings of anger and visible is not a show for various reasons. Most often because "no right" to be angry in public or in front of close. An attitude "cool", but completely unhealthy.
I do not mean that we should manifest anger and wherever anyway, just as everyone should give attention to the emotions because the sick psyche. An angry man, like it or not, it's true, is not completely sane. Most times people do not pay attention to these mental illnesses that used to say that every show emotions and reactions to emotions and so it is normal. No. It is not normal. A sane man does not control anger, but realize that it is dominated by anger and diminish their anger through a wise attitude. Not doing well neither is angry, nor of others who are addressing your anger or who witness unleashing your anger.
Osho recommend to learn how to take your rage and a pillow fight with fists until you feel anger dissipated. It is best to be alone when you fight with the pillow, but .... each to his means. But most people do not realize that anger is an emotion that sick psyche. Now that you have published so many books spiritual nature is best to try to get to know the emotions we often mastered. Of all the destructive emotions is anger. And the one who manifests, but for one who is addressed. It is best to acknowledge these emotional states. Once you are aware that you disturb an emotion so already start working with it and no longer manifest in public or coerce others with your uncontrolled emotions.
I want to say that I do not write here as a specialist, but as a man who understood human reading about these reactions and I realized myself. I understand how bad it is to block the manifestation of these emotions. Just being aware that begin to be dominated by destructive emotions you manage to become a calm. Calmness is not a state that you are equipped to win nature. Is through many lifetimes working with you but / yourself. When you meet a really cool person to be convinced that the man worked with him herself and his emotions. And he realized, he did not remember. Again, failure to not show emotions sick psyche. I want everyone to pay attention to these destructive emotions and I do not recommend block.
But always looking to not hurt others with your emotions. There is no one to blame for me or you're angry. It's just a reaction to what I do, what I do not agree. With so much literature spiritual nature is handy to know something about working with him herself and emotions which it tries, especially those emotions that do more harm everyone.
In boxing, the best defense is not to have a strong body that can endure hundreds of shots, but dodge.
So with anger, do not need to accumulate and then bother to control it, but rather let her pass you without affecting you. This brings many benefits on all levels. You can live in peace and quiet regardless of others and mishaps that occur.
The mind is the most powerful tool we have available. Everything is directing it to make it what we want, not what she wants us to do.
If you think that "bastard keeps picking on me" or "that idiot hurt me again" you put your mind to fight, accumulate anger and then to bother you manage this anger. If you acknowledge it, when you step on a higher level, where the aim to analyze what is happening, and to order him your mind to look for the real reason is the image of the other about you that cause it to behave like that. You could make comparisons between how you behave, how it behaves compared to others and you will see many things that you were not evident before being blinded by your hatred, but that will help you get to the real source of those situations . Thus, peace in the heart, you'll be able to ignore and eventually react, referring you to the source of the problem according to the circumstances.
Ideally, to be healthy, happy and wealthy without getting into any conflict with anyone how small ... but .... are real and live in a very troubled reality without coordinated ..... so .... a life of wisdom so how can each. With love and respect for any opinion
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